Reading List

Check out these books I’ve read or that have been recommended! Always updating this list!

  • The Ethical Slut: A guide to infinite sexual possibilities by Dossie Easton & Catherine A. Liszt (1997, Greenery Press)
  • S.E.X.: The All-You-Need-To-Know Sexuality Guide to Get You Through Your Teens and Twenties by Heather Corinna (2016, Da Capo Lifelong Books)
  • Sex At Dawn by Christopher Ryan & Cacilda Jethá (2010, HarperCollins)
  • XL Love: How the Obesity Crisis is Complicating America’s Love Life by Sarah Varney (2014, Rodale)
  • Ask Me About Polyamory by Kimchi Cuddles (2016, Thorntree Press)
  • Why Is the Penis Shaped Like That? And Other Reflections on Being Human by Jesse Bering, PH.D. (2012, Scientific American)
  • Pornland: How Porn Has Hijacked Our Sexuality by Gail Dines (2010, Beacon Press) (Know the opposition!)
  • Master of Sex: The Life & Times of William Masters and Virginia Johnson, the Couple Who Taught America How to Love by Thomas Maier (2009, Basic Books)
  • Difficult Conversations: How to Discuss What Matters Most by Douglas Stone, Bruce Patton & Sheila Heen (1999, Penguin)
  • Date-onomics: How Dating Became a Lopsided Numbers Game by Jon Birger (2015, Workman Publishing Company)
  • American Savage: Insights, Sights and Fights on Faith, Sex, Love, and Politics by Dan Savage (2014, Plume)
  • Opening Up: A Guide to Creating and Sustaining Open Relationship by Tristan Taormino (2008, Cleis)
  • More Than Two: A practical guide to ethical polyamory by Franklin Veaux and Eve Rickert (2014, Thorntree Press)
  • Bonk: The Curious Coupling of Science and Sex by Mary Roach (2008, Norton)
  • Food: The Good Girl’s Drug: How to Stop Using Food to Control Your Feelings by Sunny Sea Gold (2011, Berkley)
  • Not Gay: Sex Between Straight White Men by Jane Ward (2015, NYU Press)
  • Sex with Shakespeare: Here’s Much to Do with Pain, but More with Love by Jillian Keenan (2016, Harper Collins)


What Billy’s reading now!

Ethical Porn for Dicks: A Man’s Guide to Responsible Viewing Pleasure by David J. Ley, Ph.D. (2016, ThreeL Media)








Our media is filled with confusing, polarizing messages about the dangers of porn, while at the same time sexually explicit images are pronounced in advertising and entertainment. Using a natural question/answer format for people feeling fear and shame about porn use, this accessible, funny, and well-informed book is the first one to offer men a nonjudgmental way to discover how to view and use pornography responsibly.