Reading List

Check out these books I’ve read or that have been recommended! Always updating this list!

  • The Ethical Slut: A guide to infinite sexual possibilities by Dossie Easton & Catherine A. Liszt (1997, Greenery Press)
  • S.E.X.: The All-You-Need-To-Know Sexuality Guide to Get You Through Your Teens and Twenties by Heather Corinna (2016, Da Capo Lifelong Books)
  • Sex At Dawn by Christopher Ryan & Cacilda Jethá (2010, HarperCollins)
  • XL Love: How the Obesity Crisis is Complicating America’s Love Life by Sarah Varney (2014, Rodale)
  • Ask Me About Polyamory by Kimchi Cuddles (2016, Thorntree Press)
  • Why Is the Penis Shaped Like That? And Other Reflections on Being Human by Jesse Bering, PH.D. (2012, Scientific American)
  • Pornland: How Porn Has Hijacked Our Sexuality by Gail Dines (2010, Beacon Press) (Know the opposition!)
  • Master of Sex: The Life & Times of William Masters and Virginia Johnson, the Couple Who Taught America How to Love by Thomas Maier (2009, Basic Books)
  • Difficult Conversations: How to Discuss What Matters Most by Douglas Stone, Bruce Patton & Sheila Heen (1999, Penguin)
  • Date-onomics: How Dating Became a Lopsided Numbers Game by Jon Birger (2015, Workman Publishing Company)
  • American Savage: Insights, Sights and Fights on Faith, Sex, Love, and Politics by Dan Savage (2014, Plume)
  • Opening Up: A Guide to Creating and Sustaining Open Relationship by Tristan Taormino (2008, Cleis)
  • More Than Two: A practical guide to ethical polyamory by Franklin Veaux and Eve Rickert (2014, Thorntree Press)
  • Bonk: The Curious Coupling of Science and Sex by Mary Roach (2008, Norton)
  • Food: The Good Girl’s Drug: How to Stop Using Food to Control Your Feelings by Sunny Sea Gold (2011, Berkley)
  • Not Gay: Sex Between Straight White Men by Jane Ward (2015, NYU Press)
  • Sex with Shakespeare: Here’s Much to Do with Pain, but More with Love by Jillian Keenan (2016, Harper Collins)
  • Designer Relationships: A Guide to Happy Monogamy, Positive Polyamory, and Optimistic Open Relationships by Mark Michaels, Patricia Johnson (2015, Cleis Press)


What Billy’s reading now!

Designer Relationships: A Guide to Happy Monogamy, Positive Polyamory, and Optimistic Open Relationships by Mark Michaels, Patricia Johnson (2015, Cleis Press)











Contemporary relationships are in a state of rapid evolution. These changes can and should empower people with the opportunity to develop partnerships based on their own sexualities, understandings, and agreements. This makes it possible to create what Kenneth Haslam, founder of the Kinsey Institute’s Polyamory Archive, has called “designer relationships.” Designer relationships may encompass: people who bond emotionally but not sexually; people who agree to be non-exclusive; single people who have occasional lovers or friends with benefits; multiple partner configurations where long-term bonds exist among all or some; partnerships in which people are kinky and that make room to explore kink. The possibilities are limitless, and thinking about a partnership as something people can craft allows for flexibility and change. Relationships can open and close or have varying degrees and kinds of openness as circumstances demand. In the context of a designer relationship, decisions are made mutually, consciously, and deliberately. Best-selling authors and nationally known relationship experts Patricia Johnson and Mark A. Michaels are exemplars of this life choice, and have studied polyamory for over 20 years. This book explains exactly how you and your loved ones can design your own life and love.