Twitter mobs enjoy a good polarizing topic to shout about. Rape should be an easy one, right? Rape is bad. People who rape are bad. Let’s all yell about that person/guy’s badness! What they don’t stop to consider is that #NotAllRapes are “violent angry rape rapes” out of The Accused.
Sex is complicated and nuanced. The clear line separating rape and sex is the word ‘no.’ But on the banks of either side of the line lie a new conundrum facing consent culture: gray area consent. Due to a gross lack of sexual education in this country (which I’m convinced could be solved if every teenager and college student had to read Heather Corinna’s S.E.X. textbook), sexual veterans and budding young sex-havers are not clearly taught about consent. Some dudes have raped women not realizing they were raping them. Some women have regretted sex and rounded it up to rape because an Oklahoma Bible thumper taught her that. A sad many rape victims have been raped and don’t realize it.
A new YouTube video from comedians Victor Varnado and Kaytlin Bailey (from Ep. 63) fantastically helps people navigate the murky waters around grey area consent. You’ll also see former Manwhore Podcast guest Alison Klemp! Like the video. Share it with your friends. And remember that hearing, “Yes,” is way sexier than hearing, “You raped me.”