How Not To Rape: Because not all sexual assault is intentional (Video)

Twitter mobs enjoy a good polarizing topic to shout about. Rape should be an easy one, right? Rape is bad. People who rape are bad. Let’s all yell about that person/guy’s badness! What they don’t stop to consider is that #NotAllRapes are “violent angry rape rapes” out of The Accused.

Sex is complicated and nuanced. The clear line separating rape and sex is the word ‘no.’ But on the banks of either side of the line lie a new conundrum facing consent culture: gray area consent. Due to a gross lack of sexual education in this country (which I’m convinced could be solved if every teenager and college student had to read Heather Corinna’s S.E.X. textbook), sexual veterans and budding young sex-havers are not clearly taught about consent. Some dudes have raped women not realizing they were raping them. Some women have regretted sex and rounded it up to rape because an Oklahoma Bible thumper taught her that. A sad many rape victims have been raped and don’t realize it.

A new YouTube video from comedians Victor Varnado and Kaytlin Bailey (from Ep. 63) fantastically helps people navigate the murky waters around grey area consent. You’ll also see former Manwhore Podcast guest Alison Klemp! Like the video. Share it with your friends. And remember that hearing, “Yes,” is way sexier than hearing, “You raped me.”


Podcast Day: My podcast recommendations

Happy Podcast Day to all my lovely fanwhores! Twitter has informed me that we are using today to celebrate podcasting. Apparently Sept. 30 is the one day of the year that oddballs holed up in a dark room with a microphone will get to feel a little less weird. I’ve been podcasting for a year and a half and I am thrilled that both The Manwhore Podcast and the medium itself are growing! Many of you have found me through other shows I’ve appeared on and many of you have discovered other podcasts through me. For some of you, I was your first show. For others, I am just one of many you are subscribed to (slut!).

I’m celebrating International Podcast Day by sharing the shows sitting in my podcast app. I’ll also give you some sexy recommendations for your sex-positive pleasure!

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Playing the Whore with Kaytlin Bailey: From fantasy to reality

Comedian and former sex worker Kaytlin Bailey is this week’s special guest on The Manwhore Podcast! Kaytlin was a teenaged escort and is now a hilarious stand-up comic and self-proclaimed cunt. This episode features two comedians talking about sex work and gender in the funniest way possible!

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–Listen here!