Reductress writer Jasmine Pierce spends her free time dating bad boys and dismantling the patriarchy. The comedian and podcaster joins me to discuss the positive conversations that came out of the tragic UCB rape revelations. We also revisit hack bloggers’ favorite life mystery: are rape jokes funny?
There once was a virgin named Dillon,
Who could not seem to bag any women.
So he filmed a cool doc
About his lonely cock.
And now he’s real famous in Sweden!
Dillon Birdsall is the man behind (and in front of) V Card: The Film. I’m not sure about his fame status in Sweden, but it rhymed. Not unlike me and my dating dilemma, this twentysomething filmed a documentary to figure out why he’s still a virgin. Of course, it becomes about much more than that as he discovers our country’s attitude towards virginity, relationships, and sex education. PLUS: go check out Jillian Keenan’s book Sex with Shakespeare!
Kelsey Obsession is a very specific type of porn star. She produces—with her loving husband—fetish porn revolving around body parts and bodily function. She’s your one-stop shop for all things farts, feet, armpit sniffing, and giantess sex stuff. The PhD porno gal joins The Manwhore Podcast to discuss her shame-fueled sexual anorexia as a young person and the psychology of fetish fantasies. Also, Billy hurt his penis.
Twitter mobs enjoy a good polarizing topic to shout about. Rape should be an easy one, right? Rape is bad. People who rape are bad. Let’s all yell about that person/guy’s badness! What they don’t stop to consider is that #NotAllRapes are “violent angry rape rapes” out of The Accused.
Sex is complicated and nuanced. The clear line separating rape and sex is the word ‘no.’ But on the banks of either side of the line lie a new conundrum facing consent culture: gray area consent. Due to a gross lack of sexual education in this country (which I’m convinced could be solved if every teenager and college student had to read Heather Corinna’s S.E.X. textbook), sexual veterans and budding young sex-havers are not clearly taught about consent. Some dudes have raped women not realizing they were raping them. Some women have regretted sex and rounded it up to rape because an Oklahoma Bible thumper taught her that. A sad many rape victims have been raped and don’t realize it.
A new YouTube video from comedians Victor Varnado and Kaytlin Bailey (from Ep. 63) fantastically helps people navigate the murky waters around grey area consent. You’ll also see former Manwhore Podcast guest Alison Klemp! Like the video. Share it with your friends. And remember that hearing, “Yes,” is way sexier than hearing, “You raped me.”
If you’re on my website and listen to my podcast, then you already get tested regularly—1-4 times a year. If you haven’t been tested since the last State of the Union, bookmark this page and get the fuck to the clinic! Up until last year, I thought it was as simple as walking in and saying, “Do the tests, please!” It’s important to get tested. It’s more important to know how to get tested. For example, if you don’t use protective barriers for oral sex (or anal rimming, for the special people out there), you could contract chlamydia or gonorrhea in the throat. Without a throat culture or symptoms, you’ll unknowingly pass that along as you reassure Tinder dates, “Don’t worry. I’m clean.”
We’ve all been on bad dates. Even worse: we’ve all sat through bad dates for hours on end waiting for it to be over. Why do we do this? Well, we don’t want to be perceived as rude even though you’d much rather be getting work done or finishing Season 1 of Jessica Jones (it’s really good). Continue reading →
Comedian Jono Zalay joins me on this week’s Manwhore Podcast! Learn why beach sex is overrated and why your gay dreams don’t necessarily make you gay. Enjoy my chat with Jono Zalay: Traveling Scoundrel!